Hey all
Why is it that it's always ok for the man to say whatever he wants when he wants whether it's a good time or not, but not for us?? I just got home from work and my husband is sitting on the couch wathcing t.v. and asks me what's wrong or what happened because he can tell I am not happy about something. I tell him I don't want to talk about it because I know it will only bother him and he won't want to hear it anyway. Of course he pressed and I started calmly expressing how I feel about things that have been going on here lately. Mostly about him wanting to move and get away from the neighbors (which btw is the only real reason he wants to do this). I tell him I have been upset for weeks and months about this ever since he's really been pushing it and especially now that he's been off of work it's gotten worse. I tell him that I went to a agent's web site to look at what they had to offer and nothing that I saw that they had available was crap. If it wasn't in Utica (which he doesn't want it to be) and not sale pending it was horible. Houses half the sixe of the one we have and more cost to take a step down and pay more for it. I am not worried about using that particular agent, but still if that's what asking prices are like I can ask a ton for my house.
I really don't want to move, but really have been given no other choice in the matter seeming how my husband won't listen to reason when anyone suggests any rational steps to take before just up and moving, seeming how moving is a pain in the ass and no one wants to do it and I would be the one having to take of more then half of it. He really just wants to up and move into my parents place or pay rent or something anyway and put our stuff in storage and pay for that too and just sell this place as fast as possible and then look for another place. I told him it doesn't work like that. As I already meantioned I started to look already and I was upset by what I saw was available even if it is a tiny portion of what's out there. I really can't take going through house after house waiting to get a feeling like I got when I first walked through this one. When I did that I knew this was the one I wanted. Of course and brand new one would have been great, but....
Anyway I just can't believe it's ok for him to rant and rave and carry on when he's upset or decides to talk about things, but oh if he doesn't want to be bothered or doesn't like what you have to say or the topic, he won't listen to you. I hate having to turn other strangers or my few frieds for teh support or release I need for my feeling instead of the one person I am supposed to turn to, my husband. I reather be abel tot turn to him and be able to tell him how I feel and actually expect some kind of resonce other then just silance and staring at the t.v the whole time I was talking and with a basic no comment after wards, even as I sat crying and upset.
